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All You Need to Know About The Child Adjusting to Parenting

All You Need to Know About The Child Adjusting to Parenting

For older children brought into a household through adoption, parenting will definitely involve the need for the “adults” to assert their parental authority over their children. For one, though parents may not actually have to put terms of residence in writing, they still should agree on an established set of rules that are consistent over time and between spouses. An adoptee should not be able to automatically go to Mom when Dad denies a request.
Adoptive parents should also make clear that a violation of the law of the house will be met with consequences. Certainly, children should not be punished out of malice or with undue force, but any punishments should nonetheless come with “teeth.” Adopters may elect to wait a few weeks after adoption finalization to institute their binding policies, but if nothing else, they can ease their children into any system gradually to make them more comfortable with this transition. 
Adoption parenting often involves the need to address differences in standard procedure from one household to the next. In the absence of a long-term home before adoption finalization, meanwhile, what parents deem “bad behavior” might be natural to a child. Specifically, a child may have a relatively poor sense of physical boundaries, and as a result, may be physically aggressive and abusive to other children or might act out sexually with non-family members at an inappropriate age.
Parents may need to address these concerns perhaps earlier than they would like, but nonetheless, to prevent conflicts with other families and potentially people getting hurt, such a tact might have to be taken.
Adoption parenting is not an exercise in perfection, as no parent is perfect. Like any parent, adoptive parents should stress that their home is one in which it is OK to make mistakes. Moreover, adoptive parents should communicate the sentiment that, though they are grown-ups, they too are learning along with their children. Undoubtedly, parenting is a process.

What You Should Know About Coming Home with Your New Child

What You Should Know About Coming Home with Your New Child

As hard as the transition process will undoubtedly be for first-time adoptive parents, the needs of the child are most critical. Couples would do well to sympathize with their children and contemplate just how challenging adjusting to a new family will be. This is especially so for the years following the adoption, as the recollections of past homes may tinge adoptees’ lives with sadness.
Yet adoptive parents are not helpless in this regard. In a respectful way, they can show that they embrace their child’s past by letting them express their feelings on these matters through telling stories, drawing pictures, and constructing what are known as lifebooks. Adoptive parents are also encouraged to try to bond with their adopted children through fun, educational activities where close interaction is a must. 

All You Need to Know About Adjusting to New Family

All You Need to Know About Adjusting to New Family

 

Though adoptive parents may consciously treat their new additions as regular children and state there is no significance to them being adopted as far as they are concerned, the kids may not immediately reciprocate. Even when a birth parent has been abusive to a child, the bond between the two may be an enduring one, for the child will feel a sense of love and attachment for his mother/father.

Thus, despite all the advantages a post-adoption home may present an adoptee as far as safety and amenities go, trust is still key to the development of a similar kind of relationship with the adoptive parents. In fact, it may take years if not a lifetime for an adopted child to come to fully accept his new parents as his true parents (besides, one can be a father or mother without being a good parent).

Though certainly less common, children may come to accompany existing biological children or other previously adopted members of the family after adoption. Without question, trying to meet the needs of a recently expanded family is a proverbial balancing act. For one, this may be hard on the "old" children, as they may not be getting the same attention as the new entrant does.

As for adopted children, they may feel as if they have to assert themselves in order to get noticed, and sibling rivalries and physical clashes may erupt over this post-adoption power struggle of sorts. Adoptive parents should do their best not to play favorites and apply rewards and consequences fairly and consistently.

If a child must cope with special needs, post-adoption life changes may be hardest of all. With developmental disorders on the autism spectrum, for example, any change may be disorienting to their feelings of being threatened. 

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