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What Are The Things to Expect When You Adopt

What Are The Things to Expect When You Adopt

In finalizing an adoption, most new adoptive parents are likely not anticipating the worst or else they would not have completed the adoption process. In cases of infant adoption, an adopted child of this age will not be strongly opinionated about where he or she came from or feel the pain of being abandoned by his or her mother and father.
Especially if children have never lived with their birth mother and/or father (common in cases of infant adoption where a birth mother cedes parental rights immediately after birth as per an agreement with prospective adoptive parents), they will have no conscious memory of their biological parents. 
Infant adopted children will only have immediate needs for affection, food, sleep, and other elements of their care they could not hope to provide for themselves, for which intending adopters must be prepared. In instances like this, the adoption process is not much different from the childbirth process. 
Another obvious point is that infant adoption is not the only form of domestic adoption. For older children, notably children of school age, the change of scenery is another important thing to contemplate. On top of acclimating to a new family, an adopted child will need to get used to a new town or city, start in a new school and make new friends, all of which may be frightening for him or her. Transitions are seldom easy for adults, let along young people. A parent’s guidance and support will be essential for a successful adjustment. 
It should be emphasized that adoptive parents do not have to go through the adoption process and the following years alone. For those who are comfortable with the setup, there are numerous live support groups and online forums designed to discuss the joys and sorrows of adoption. Additionally, there are books, videos, Web sites, and plenty of other informational resources on infant adoption and adoption of older children. 

All You Need to Know About The Child Adjusting to Parenting

All You Need to Know About The Child Adjusting to Parenting

For older children brought into a household through adoption, parenting will definitely involve the need for the “adults” to assert their parental authority over their children. For one, though parents may not actually have to put terms of residence in writing, they still should agree on an established set of rules that are consistent over time and between spouses. An adoptee should not be able to automatically go to Mom when Dad denies a request.
Adoptive parents should also make clear that a violation of the law of the house will be met with consequences. Certainly, children should not be punished out of malice or with undue force, but any punishments should nonetheless come with “teeth.” Adopters may elect to wait a few weeks after adoption finalization to institute their binding policies, but if nothing else, they can ease their children into any system gradually to make them more comfortable with this transition. 
Adoption parenting often involves the need to address differences in standard procedure from one household to the next. In the absence of a long-term home before adoption finalization, meanwhile, what parents deem “bad behavior” might be natural to a child. Specifically, a child may have a relatively poor sense of physical boundaries, and as a result, may be physically aggressive and abusive to other children or might act out sexually with non-family members at an inappropriate age.
Parents may need to address these concerns perhaps earlier than they would like, but nonetheless, to prevent conflicts with other families and potentially people getting hurt, such a tact might have to be taken.
Adoption parenting is not an exercise in perfection, as no parent is perfect. Like any parent, adoptive parents should stress that their home is one in which it is OK to make mistakes. Moreover, adoptive parents should communicate the sentiment that, though they are grown-ups, they too are learning along with their children. Undoubtedly, parenting is a process.

All You Need to Know About Adjusting to New Family

All You Need to Know About Adjusting to New Family

 

Though adoptive parents may consciously treat their new additions as regular children and state there is no significance to them being adopted as far as they are concerned, the kids may not immediately reciprocate. Even when a birth parent has been abusive to a child, the bond between the two may be an enduring one, for the child will feel a sense of love and attachment for his mother/father.

Thus, despite all the advantages a post-adoption home may present an adoptee as far as safety and amenities go, trust is still key to the development of a similar kind of relationship with the adoptive parents. In fact, it may take years if not a lifetime for an adopted child to come to fully accept his new parents as his true parents (besides, one can be a father or mother without being a good parent).

Though certainly less common, children may come to accompany existing biological children or other previously adopted members of the family after adoption. Without question, trying to meet the needs of a recently expanded family is a proverbial balancing act. For one, this may be hard on the "old" children, as they may not be getting the same attention as the new entrant does.

As for adopted children, they may feel as if they have to assert themselves in order to get noticed, and sibling rivalries and physical clashes may erupt over this post-adoption power struggle of sorts. Adoptive parents should do their best not to play favorites and apply rewards and consequences fairly and consistently.

If a child must cope with special needs, post-adoption life changes may be hardest of all. With developmental disorders on the autism spectrum, for example, any change may be disorienting to their feelings of being threatened. 

To consult with application and registration contact a family lawyer to consult your case.